Every New Year, we’re encouraged to choose one resolution.
But the truth is, most of us don’t want just one thing. We want things in every category of life (health, family, work, financial, etc).
So this year, instead of forcing everything into a single resolution, I tried something that felt far more realistic — and surprisingly freeing.
I chose 13 wishes.
Why do it…
Most resolutions are really wishes (dreams) in disguise as something we feel we need to change about ourselves… that’s a lot of pressure!!
So instead of trying to do or change or give up one thing that will miraculously bring me happiness, I decided to write down 13 wishes for 2026. Some were big. Some were small. All were honest.
What to do…
Each day for twelve days, I burned one wish without reading it. The act wasn’t about the fire — it was about the choice to release that wish beyond myself, whether that means trusting God, the Universe, or simply accepting that not everything needs my constant control. It was about setting the wish down and letting go of the mental and emotional weight of carrying it. After twelve days, one wish remained. That final wish is the one I’m meant to focus on — the one I actively work toward — while allowing the rest to unfold in their own time.
How I felt…
Just writing the wishes down felt clarifying.
Letting most of them go felt even better.
Instead of trying to move 13 parts of my life forward at once, I now had permission to focus on one — while trusting that the rest don’t need to live in my head every day.
Less pressure.
Less mental clutter.
More direction.
I also realized this exercise can be used in every part of life. There are always multiple directions and multiple steps pulling us apart mentally emotionally and even physically. So, knowing where to put time and energy is key.
How This Relates to Wedding Planning
I see this same overwhelm constantly when couples plan weddings — too many decisions, too many opinions, too many things that feel equally important.
One of the most helpful things I do as a planner is help couples:
- Let go of what doesn’t actually matter
- Focus on what does
- Create space to enjoy the process
Because clarity doesn’t just reduce stress — it changes the entire experience.
If you’re planning a wedding and feeling pulled in too many directions, I’d love to help you simplify, refocus, and breathe again.
Weddings get easier when you know what deserves your attention and what doesn’t. My 2-Hour Planning Session is 50% off and helps couples focus on what truly matters — so you’re not trying to carry all 13 wishes at once.
